The best way to have a good marriage is to see the good in the marriage. It’s the same as anything else in life…if we focus on the difficulties in life, life quickly becomes overwhelming. As we count our blessings, and recognize the good In life…it suddenly becomes wonderful. Even though the trials still remain. There is no life that is void of trials. Marriage is the same, there is no perfect marriage…just perfectly approached marriages. As we focus on the good qualities that our spouses have and kind acts that they do….we will fall In Love all over again …or that love will deepen.
What a perfect week to tell your spouse how thankful you are for them. Don’t wait until Thursday…do it now! 🙂
Remember it doesn’t actually matter what day you start….just do it for a week!
Here are some fun idea of what to do…
Send a text every hour one day! Just set your timer. Be prepared with a list of things you appreciate. Every hour send them a new one.
Give them a kiss everyday this week before they even wake up. So that your kiss starts their day. Then whisper in their ear something you appreciate about them.
Send a card in the mail. If you feel ambitious send one every day for a week!
Leave messages around the house. On the mirror, on the steering wheel, back of the toilet, in the refrigerator, sock drawer, by the cell phone charge cord, on the computer, in his wallet or her purse.
Fill the car with balloons…write what your grateful for on them!
Verbally notice something each day about your spouse that will leave them feeling better about themselves.
Have a gratitude party and get the kids involved. You can go big or go small. On a different day than Thanksgiving (so not to distract from traditions)! Get a cake or their favorite dessert and CELEBRATE!!
Or you can do all the above and completely shower your spouse with love!!!
Don’t forget to take pictures!!! Pictures make memories last!
I learned early in in my marriage how important this was. I had a good friend who was dating a guy who didn’t treat her right and she was having a hard time stepping away from it. He was pressuring her to marry him, and she was seriously contemplating it. In an attempt to nudge her away from her boyfriend, I wanted to make sure she knew that marriage wasn’t all peaches and cream. So I would complain about anything I could think of …to show how hard it was. After a couple of weeks, Mark and my relationship started to struggle. I was picking at him all the time. All the sudden I realized what I was doing. I was focusing so much on negative…that I was having a hard time seeing all the awesomeness around me. I immediately apologized to Mark and my friend ….once I refocused on how beautiful my marriage was…that is what it became! Our marriage is how we see it! So put on the glasses of optimism…and start seeing all the awesomeness around you.
-Sherri Jorgensen
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