Disciples of Jesus Christ are called to be peacemakers, even when we see things differently. Elder Gary E. Stevenson has reminded us that we can disagree without being disagreeable—a Christlike skill the world needs now more than ever.
The Savior taught that “contention is not of me” (3 Nephi 11:29). Paul urged us to “speak the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15) and to let our words be “seasoned with grace” (Colossians 4:6). The Lord’s pattern is persuasion, long-suffering, gentleness, meekness, and love unfeigned (Doctrine and Covenants 121:41–42). When disagreements arise, we don’t abandon truth—we embody it with charity.
Five simple ways to live this:
- Listen to understand, not just to reply (James 1:19).
- Assume good intent and honor the divine worth of others.
- Use “I” statements and bear simple testimony rather than debating to win.
- Seek common ground—especially our shared identity as children of God.
- Pause, pray, and choose a “soft answer” that turns away wrath (Proverbs 15:1).
Why it matters:
- Truth shared without love can harden hearts; love expressed with truth can open them.
- Civility is not compromise; it’s Christlike courage restrained by charity.
- The Spirit is a “still, small voice” (1 Kings 19:12; 3 Nephi 11:3–6). Contention drives Him away; meekness invites Him in.
A gentle invitation:
Before your next conversation or post, ask: “Will my words invite the Spirit? Will they lift, heal, and help?” Then choose language that reflects your discipleship. As President Dallin H. Oaks taught, we can love others and live with differences—and do so as true followers of Christ.
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